Six months isn't that long, is it? I mean, it's only half a year and the older I get, the less impact a year really has on my life.
Six months. A lot can happen in six months. There are a lot of holidays, including the most important one of all, MY BIRTHDAY, happening in the next six months. Am I really ready for what I'm about to do?
I've been through this and through this many times before. I'll say no more, and then I will. I say never again, and then I say what time? This time, it's for serious. Totally legit, almost too legit to quit. It's where my heart is, and where my head is, and when the two are at the same place at the same time, you know it's right.
No dating, for six months. No one on one alone time with a member of the opposite sex of whom I may have romantic interest in. No candle lit dinners or walks on the beach. No *gasp* flowers sent to me. It's not like that stuff ever happened all that much anyway, but this will be making SURE it doesn't happen.
If he wants me bad enough, he can wait until February. Whoever he is. If I'm worth it, he'll wait. If I'm not, well then obviously he'll divide and conquer another young lady and it'll prove he wasn't worth it anyhow.
I'm excited to see where this new adventure leads me. I'm excited to work on my Relationship with God and prepare myself for that man who will wait for me. For all of me. I've already been single for 7 months, what's another 6? Piece of cake. Mmmm... cake...
You heard it here first Blog buddies, no more dates until February 2011. Did you just hear that? That's the sound of hearts breaking all over the world ;)
Why?
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ReplyDeleteYou know how people always say "when you least expect it, it'll happen?" Well, my problem is, I expect it. I expect falling in love every day and secretly (well, not so much anymore) go to bed disappointed that it hasn't happened yet.
I truly, fully need to not worry about finding love, and let him find me. Some people asked "why not 3 months" and to be honest, I don't know. 3 months just doesn't seem like a long enough period for me to get control my desire I suppose. Maybe in 3-4 months I'll re-assess the situation and see where my heart is. But I feel incredibly unstable at the moment.
Not emotionally unstable or anything crazy like that, just that life is so up in the air and I'd like for things to be a tad more certain before I try to mesh myself with another person's life and vice versa.
I hope that makes sense :)
Darling, you can't schedule in a date to fall in love or be available for love. It just happens. Spend time with the girls and just have fun but no time limits and no guy wants to wait for you to "be available" if he loves you and wants to be with you. If it comes, just go with the flow ;)
ReplyDeleteWhen Rich and I began dating, I was all he could think about. I wanted to be with him every second. You'll see, if a guy loves you, he can't stop thinking about you and wants to be with you every minute. Don't crush his love by a time schedule. He'll take it the wrong way.
If someone likes you and hears this rule and can't respect it, he's an idiot. Love does just happen, and God's timing will rule, but sometimes to clear your head and get in the proper mindset for life is the most important thing. If a guy likes you and you are open with people about your six-month delay, he'll wait. Anticipation is one of the best parts of the pre-dating phase. Just think of how many romantic things he'll be able to come up with waiting for your romance moratorium to end.
ReplyDeleteYou are one cool cat and one wise girl. I get your heart in this. I love getting to know you through these pages and hope I get to know you better in person too.
ReplyDeleteAgreed Nikki :) Wish I had moved down here, oh lets say two years earlier haha.
ReplyDeleteshoot, I don't even speak the same language as the girls around here, literally. plus they can go clubbing and drinking in bars at age 16. So yeah, I don't talk to the girls much. Kinda risky, especially with the way they dress and act. Scary. It's sad, when I come back i'll be almost 30. Now that is scary!
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